I never could have imagined the experiences, challenges and rewards that come along with the title and responsibility of being "Mom". Everyday my little ones present different needs to be met, new attitudes to understand, stages to conquer, and find new ways to unravel my patience. Despite the challenges, the rewards that come from a genuine I love you mom, a moment of 3 children happily playing together, and even a simple accomplishment bring feelings and emotions that words can't describe. I am ever so grateful for my Precious Little Ones; for their individuality, talents, and the completeness each one contributes to the Cox Clan.

September 20, 2010

Mama's Big Belly

The past week has been quite entertaining as my little ones try to figure out this thing called "pregnancy." There have been quite a few conversations and remarks that have sure made me smile.

When we announced the news and Mason first realized that I was going to be having a baby, he instantly looked at my tummy. And he wouldn't stop.  The first thing he did was walk over and lift up my shirt to check out where this baby was. He did this all morning long. When his ride came to get him for school, he ran out the door yelling (sharing) our news. I walked out to talk to my friend and with a van full of kids, Mason says "Mom, show them all your big belly!" Ya right, I'm going to lift up my shirt! But so funny because just the day before, my tummy wasn't so big. Now because Mason knows there's a baby there, it's all the sudden BIG and he wants to share and announce this to everyone!

Madelyn's reaction has been so cute. She has anticipated this for a very long time, and even consistently started praying for a new baby several months ago.  To her, this is "our" baby. Just as much hers as mine.  Madelyn was so intrigued with the fact that I've known since July that I was expecting.  This was just mind boggling to her.  She continues to ask, "But mom, how did you know you were pregnant?" I continue to say, "Mommy's just know these things." Or "Mommy started feeling really sick, so I just knew."  These answers will satisfy her for a short time and then the question is asked again. I'm not sure what else to say....

I've been able to hide the sickness (in other words, throwing up every night and morning) pretty well. But this last week I've been caught a couple times.  After one occassion, I was lying on my bed and here's how the conversation went:

Mason: Mom, are you sick?
Me: Yes, I don't feel so good but I will be fine.
Mason: How come?
Madelyn: Because she's pregnant, Mason.
Mason: How come that makes you sick? Is the baby sick?
Me: No, Mommy's body isn't used to a baby inside, so it makes me a little sick.
Mason: Oh, so you probably just throw up when the baby hiccups, right? Or when the baby spits up, that makes you spit up, too. Right?

All the things they're figuring out. Too funny!

Another time I was caught by Jalen. He wouldn't leave the bathroom. He just wanted to stand over my shoulder. Of course he announced it to everyone else so they all had to come in too. Then his response was, "Oh mommy! You're so sick! You just need to drink some sprite and lay down."

I was thinking, I would love that! But then who would finish cleaning up breakfast, make lunches, help Madelyn with piano, finish helping Mason with his homework, comb 3 kids hair, change the laundry, shower and get ready, drive the kids to school and be ready to go visiting teaching by 9 am????

Sipping on sprite and laying around would have been nice, but the reality for Moms is that life continually demands our attention. There's no time to slow down, give in to what our bodies really want, or ease up on schedules and responsibilities.  So we deal with it.  We hide the sickness.  We carry on.  And for the most part, we do it well. Because really, there's no other options!  So to all of you mothers, Kuddos to you!! You are amazing and courageous and give me strength knowing I'm not the only one to do this before!


Candace said...

Oh my goodness! Congratulations! I've never seen you pregnant before. I sure hope you start feeling better sometime soon...absolutely no fun.

Chad and Mandi said...

The whole time I have been pregnant I kept thinking, "How do women do this when they already have other kids to take care of?" I am so tired with just one in the oven, I just don't know you you verteran mothers juggle it all! I saw a mother at the grocery store with 4 kids, all seeming to be under the age of 6. I was in awe at how she handled 4 kids hanging on her and her cart, and still fit groceries in it. I automatically thought of you and Nona and how you handle it with such stamina. You give me confidence I can handle just the one that is coming! So, thanks!

Shannon Morgan Photography - Port Orchard, WA Photography said...

Oh Jennie and Alan congrats!! loved reading this sweet blog entry! Gosh I miss you :)! I hope this sickness passes soon, and you start feeling better. All my love and thoughts sending your way!

Shannon said...

I love all the sweet stories/remark from the kids~ look they have already started building memories to this pregnancy! :)

JaKe and NaT* said...

hahahah me and jake just laughed for like an hour.. your kids always say the funniest things. haha and i'm so glad you share these priceless memories with us! so good to see you this weekend.. love you!

mindy said...

how cute!
As for Madelyn, we gave Olivia the talk when she was 8. Perhaps she's ready for the truth. I had heard from a couple at a parenting fireside that we ought to tell our kids before anyone else does. Because how they hear about it for the first time is what they will compare everything else to. Like if some kids are talking about it, she would think, 'that's not what my parents said...' Also, how you tell kids about strangers way before they would need to worry about it--I was really nervous to tell her about it, but it actually went really well, and she just thought the whole thing was so funny. We laughed a lot--and she had a lot of questions. Just something to think about. sorry this comment is more like a post in itself ;)
Hope you get to feeling better very soon!!

Jenna said...

I do think it really helps to know we're not along in this pregnancy thing...and that it will pass! I really hope the sickness ends soon for you, It's hard to have energy to do anything when you're feeling yucky.

Jess said...

Oh my!! Congratulations Jennie! I am so happy for you all. What a joy to have another sweet little baby on the way. I am so sorry about the morning sickness, that part is never fun. I hope it passes soon. How sweet are little kids when mommy is preggo? Congrats again.

Rebecca said...

Congratulations!! I love the conversations you had with your kiddos. So cute! That is so exciting. Hope your morning sickness doesn't last too long:)

Becca said...

I'm so sorry you've been sick! I'm just around the corner if you EVER want to lay around and drink sprite :)